There
have been a couple of recent diary entries where I have been pessimistic as to
our country's future. Pessimistic, I feel, with just cause but let me
balance things a little today. NO balance them A LOT.
Yesterday marked five weeks since my daughter died. Five hard
and difficult weeks but five weeks in which so much love has been shown to my
family, love from so many people and so great that I can never, ever say a big
enough THANK YOU to everyone.
The recent spell of hot weather has taken a toll on my
garden, I was out there yesterday with the hosepipe offering first aid to the
flowers, to the strawberry plants and to the wilting tomatoes. I heard the
phone ringing inside the house so raced up the path and snatched the handset
before the caller hung up.
It was Toni Fisher, the practice manager from my GP's surgery
calling to ask how I and my wife Maureen were. How were we coping with our loss
? Was there anything we needed ?
Can you believe that ? A large and busy doctors surgery
serving many thousands of families yet the person in charge of its
administration and co-ordination took time out to personally call me. Love
does not come much better than that. Incredible as it was, it is just one expression of the immeasurable love my
family has received across the past five weeks.
Doctor Philip Mason, Renal Consultant at Oxford's Churchill
Hospital, said to me
the
day after Rebekah died, "My job is not to treat patients but to care for them."
Let me put a face to the man - here he is, Lovely Doctor
Philip Mason. Rebekah thought the world of him and so do I. "My job is not
to treat patients but to care for them."
The phone rang one evening, two or three days after we lost
Beck. It was Maureen and my GP Doctor Hilmy. Before she moved to Northampton
Doctor Hilmy had also been Rebekah's GP. Gary, Rebekah's husband, calls
him Doctor Heal-me. Let me introduce you to this incredible man.
Doctor Hilmy was calling to say how sorry he was and to
express his love
for my family. He said during that telephone
conversation, "You may be my patient but you are also my friend." I could
write so much about lovely Doctor Hilmy but back to that call yesterday from
Toni Fisher. She said that Doctor Labrum had asked if he could have my telephone
number as he would like to speak to me.
Doctor Labum retired fifteen years ago, he was my family's GP
when each of my children were born and the family doctor who oversaw Rebekah's
condition when it first became apparent thirty-two years ago. Of course
Doctor Labrum could have my number, I would be proud if he wanted to call.
I returned to the garden and busied myself spraying a jet of
water over wilting flowers. Fortunately I had left the door to the patio open so
heard the phone ringing again. Linford Christie you would have been proud of my
sprint back up to the house. It was Doctor Labrum calling. The
practice manager must have called him the moment we finished speaking, given him
my number and he called me straight away. We spoke for a long, long time on the
telephone, a beautiful conversation filled with love. How wonderfully
special that a man who had retired fifteen years ago still wanted to speak about
one of his patients ! He remembered Rebekah so well, his words were so
beautiful, so loving and so comforting.
I said to Doctor Labrum that I was proud he had been my
family's GP. Unfortunately I do not have a photograph of Doctor Labrum, even the
mighty Google can not help me. I do have a photograph of this man.
This is Iain Stewart, our local MP.
Here
is a letter Iain wrote to me a few weeks ago.
LOOK - it is on House of Commons letterhead. LOOK - it is
hand written.
Iain was thanking me for praising the work of Milton Keynes
Hospital. The Nurse Specialist who looked after Rebekah's dialysis even took
time out of her duties to come to her funeral.
For thirty-two years, since Rebekah's renal failure was first
diagnosed I have had experience of our WONDERFUL NHS. I shout my mouth off
all the time about it. My wife says I talk too much, I can never talk
enough about the likes of Doctor Mason, Doctor Hilmy, Doctor Labrum, Oxford
University Hospitals, Milton Keynes Hospital - I can never shout my mouth off
loud enough and for long enough in praise our incredible health service.
When I am shouting I now mention Iain's hand written letter
and say how special it is that a busy MP could do that. Iain is a strong
supporter of our NHS and himself a lovely man. When I spoke to Toni Fisher
yesterday and speaking the day after Beck's funeral to the deputy CEO of Milton
Keynes Hospital they both praised Iain for his support.
I will be seeing Iain in a couple of weeks when he attends an
event Maureen, my wife, is running. No doubt I will bend his ear as I praise the
National health Service again.
Putting down the telephone yesterday my first reaction was to
write again to Iain then I devised a different plan. I am very good at
opening doors. If I knock and the door is not opened I just kick it in and
enter anyway. YES, I will tell Iain about those two 'phone calls from
yesterday but first let me tell his boss.
I
doubt anyone reading this diary entry will recognise this man. NO, he is not a
doctor. NO, he does not work for the NHS. He is Peter Hill,
Principal Private Secretary to The Prime Minister.
On Monday morning he will be receiving a recorded delivery
letter within which there will be another letter for Iain Stewart's boss.
I am asking him to arrange a fifteen minute meeting for me with Theresa May. The
letter will be worded in such a way it will be very difficult for him or Mrs May
to refuse. As Prime Minister Theresa May meets hundreds of people every
week, some will just be faces that pass her by and are forgotten within seconds.
I promise you Mrs May you will not forget those fifteen
minutes you spend with
me. You probably will not be able to say much as I will be dominating the
conversation throughout as I tell you experience after experience after
experience praising our National Health Service.
Mrs May I will meet you anywhere in the country at any time
on any day. I want just fifteen minutes of your time. Fifteen minutes to praise
our National Health Service. During those fifteen minutes I will give you two
thoughts to take away with you.
FIRSTLY
it is not the politicians that make a country great, they can do all they like
but it is the PEOPLE who make a country great. People like Doctor Mason, people
like Doctor Labrum, People like Doctor Heal-me, people like all those who work
in our National Health Service.
SECONDLY Mrs May, I will be telling you the National Health
Service is NOT undefended. Yes, of course, it needs more cash, no matter
how much money government throws at it
there will never be enough.
Government is in an impossible position and can never find enough. However, when
it comes to LOVE our National Health Service is OVER-FUNDED by the incredible
people who work within it.
Yesterday two of Rebekah's friends and I met to discuss ideas
we have to help Ronald McDonald as he supports families of sick children in
hospital. Mrs May I intend to pack a lot into our fifteen minute meeting, I
wonder if you and your husband would allow me to take you for a burger at a
branch of McDonalds ? We'll also talk about that in our fifteen minute
meeting.
My family would never have coped when Rebekah was a child in
hospital if it were not for
Ronald McDonald House. For thirty years my
family has supported Ronald. Rebekah put in her will a wish that we
support Ronald in her memory.
Unlike
myself, Ronald does not shout his mouth off. I admire McDonalds, the fast food
giant, for the calm and almost secretive way it goes about the work Ronald
McDonald Houses do. It could make so much marketing capital out of its work but
does not. I wonder if Prime Minister May knows of Ronald's work. She will
once we have met.
On Tuesday I have a meeting with a McDonald's franchise owner
and his Marketing Manager. Following the meeting yesterday with some of
Beck's friends, I am busy typing up notes to share and plan tomorrow to write a
diary entry which I will call MEMORIES OF McDONALDS.
I really would like to take Mr and Mrs May to McDonalds and
to show them the Ronald McDonald boxes there. I will be asking Iain
Stewart to come with me to our local branch, share a burger, see what Ronald is
up to and for me to tell him how Beck's friends and family want to help Ronald.
When we go I would love it if someone from Whaddon Medical Centre and someone
from Milton Keynes Hospital could join us.
My wife says I talk too much, as you can see when I get going
I write too much as well. But there are some things in life you can not
say too much about.
Time for me to shut up. I'll be back tomorrow with my
memories of McDonalds. (NO the way I write McDonalds is NOT a typo - I will
explain tomorrow.)
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