Yesterday marked one week since my beautiful
daughter Rebekah passed away. I have not been writing diary
entries, it did not feel right but I do have a lot to share with my
readers so here goes.
A week ago I could not imagine life without my
Little Miss Sunshine, that was what we called her. During the
past week so much has happened, so much that has actually left me
feeling happy.
My family has been inundated with flowers, cards,
letters and beautiful, beautiful messages. Beck obviously touched the lives
of so many people and those people have rushed to send their love to Rebeha's husband,
to my wife and to myself. I feel so warm, so strong and
supported. All of this leaves me feeling happy. Yes, happy is the
right word. I am smiling my way through the days. I am
laughing. I am joking.
My wife and I have now legally changed our names
to include Rebekah within them, we have to start practicing new
signatures.
Our garden has forty sunflowers smiling for our
Little Miss Sunshine.
Her friends are organising a fun run to
support Rebekah's loved charity, Ronald McDonald House.
Once
the celebration of her life has
formally taken place on Tuesday 6th June I will be promoting this
fun run like crazy. The friends have set themselves a target
to raise one thousand
pounds, as of this morning they have raised two hundred and five
pounds. We will smash that target several times over.
HAVE A LOOK.
Ronald McDonald is, of course, the face of the
international fast food giant but he is also, and more importantly,
the face of Ronald McDonald House providing loving accommodation for
families who have children seriously ill in hospital. There
are fifteen Ronald McDonald houses in the UK and THREE HUNDRED AND
SIXTY FIVE in FORTY TWO different countries of the world.
Without Ronald McDonald my family would not have been able to cope
with all we had to while Beck was a child. She loved Ronald
McDonald.
If you take a look at Ronald, clowning around,
that is how I feel. This silly old man is a happy old man.
I may not have my Beck with me in a physical sense but she is with
me in a new and very happy way. I will not be living the rest
of my life without Rebehah, she will always be a central part of it.
For a moment, a week ago, I wondered if I should end my fifty year
old hobby of writing. This diary is just a small part of my
hobby. I am engaged in a major writing project for a novel THE BRIDGE HOUSE. Rebekah, I know, never thought much of my
writing but an author writes for himself and not in the hope that
people will
actually read what he scribbles.
The Bridge House starts in 1901
when the central character is eleven years old and Queen Victoria
has just died. The story will end shortly after Rebekah was
born in 1983.
Having lost Beck I wondered if I could finish the
story. My wife said I should write it for Rebekah. That I am
doing and from the website I have set up to work on the draft story
I am inviting Beck's friends, those who knew her and all who read my
writing to help me with the story. This
diary
has readers in ten different countries of the world. I invite
everyone to help me write this story.
My plan
demands I finish the draft for Chapter One by 4th June, the date of Rebekah's
funeral. We are not using that word but a celebration party is being
held on
6th June. My plan is to finish the story completely and be
ready for publication by 15th October. Beck's Ronald McDonald fun
run is happening on that very same day ! My plan was written
before Beck passed away and before the idea for the fun run.
Strange
? Coincidence ?
The central character in the
story is my grandmother, Lily. Her childhood home was The Bridge House.
NO that is not The Bridge House in the cover image and NO the lady in it is not
Lily. Read the website, click the picture, for an explanation or simply go
to www.lilybedson.com
Ever week
my grandmother used to bake fruit cakes. I had started to write this
into chapter one when it was decided at Beck's celebration we would
have cakes. We are asking everyone to bring cakes to the garden
party celebration, many more than we can possibly eat. The next day
we will be taking cakes to the school where Beck worked and to the
hospitals where she was cared for. Cakes and Rebekah are woven
into the story.
The one type of cake I can make
myself are those same fruit cakes my grandmother used to make.
I will be making a few dozen for the celebration. My
grandmother could also make an incredible bread pudding. As a
student she would make me bread pudding. I love bread pudding,
could never make it myself and it is not easy to buy these days. I am
just starting to weave bread pudding into the story.
Rebekah had invited us to tea last Sunday and was going to give me a
gift as a thank you for taking her to and from hospital while her
dialysis programme was being set up. She know how much I love
music so had got for me an Andre Reiu CD.
The ONLY music I have listened to since losing Beck is that CD, I
have played it over and over and over again.
There is one song
in particular, Santa Lucia which I love. I am weaving this
into the story.
As the writing progresses there
will be more and more of my Little Miss Sunshine buried deep inside
it. The reader will probably never know about this but I will.
The finished story will be published both as an e-book and in a
traditional format. Yeh, I love the ego boost when I see lots
of copies of my writing have been sold but the actual writing is
what is important. When The Bridge House is finished I am
going to promote it like crazy, I want it to sell an amazing number
of copies. All of the royalties will be given to Ronald McDonald to
help him care for families of sick children in hospital.
Please will you help me write this story ?
Please will you support, encourage, criticise, offer suggestions ?
Keep me writing and make sure I reach the deadlines in my plan ?
Make sure Chapter One is finished by Beck's celebration. make sure
the whole work is published on the day of the fun run. Please go to
www.lilybedson.com and read
the draft.
This Silly Old Man is a happy old man. Thank you for bringing
that happiness into what could have been the darkest time of my
life.
Peter Pan, I can hear you saying but can you name anything else ?
J M Barrie I am not.
I will never produce a work of the quality of Peter Pan.
As a child I saw the Walt Disney film and had a book taking images from the film to tell the story.
Peter Pan, Wendy, Captain Hook, Tinkerbell, The Lost Boys - what wonderful characters in a beautiful story line. A work of genius.
As a child I was not aware that all royalties from the story were given to Great Ormond Street Hospital for Sick Children. It was not until my early adult life that I understood what an amazing gesture this author had made.
James Matthew Barrie was born in 1860 and died in 1937. If I ask you to name stories he wrote during his lifetime beyond Peter Pan I doubt you will be able to. I have tried to find out how much money the author's work has given to the hospital but no figures are available. It must be many millions.
Nobody is screaming about the generosity of James Barrie, all those millions are wrapped in a thick blanket of modesty.
Here is something else that is wrapped in a blanket of modesty.
Do you recognise the logo ?
It is Ronald McDonald Childrens Charity, the operator of Ronald McDonald Houses all over the world.
We all know the fast food giant, of course we do, but Just Like J M Barrie it does not shout its mouth off about its generosity.
Ronald McDonald provides free accommodation in a loving environment for families of children in hospital.
When my beautiful daughter Rebekah was treated for chronic renal failure in Guyz Hospital, London, my family would never have been able to cope with life had it not been for Ronald McDonald.
As readers of my diary know, my darling Beck passed away suddenly on Friday. I am meeting with her friend Jo this morning and will be talking about something her friends have set up. Let me share what they have put on-line.
As a group we are taking part in the Milton Keynes big fun run in memory of our beautiful friend Rebekah.
Rebekah passed away suddenly on Friday 19th May aged 34 years old. All her life she had been a renal patient. After 2 failed kidney transplants she eventually had a successful one (Louise kidney) Louise kidney allowed Rebekah to achieve so much for 22 years but unfortunately a couple of months ago Louise kidney ceased working and Rebekah was on dialysis.
During her childhood Rebekah spent weeks on end in Guys hospital in London where her family received invaluable care and support from Ronald McDonald house. Their kindness touched their lives and will never be forgotten.
We would like to raise as much as we can in Rebekah's memory to help other families with seriously ill children in hospital to receive the same care and support that touched the lives of this special family.
I may be a proud holder of The Duke of Edinburgh's Award but that was fifty years ago and the physical element was hiking, walking and not running. In cross country at school I would always be one of the tail endears. I am intending this morning to chat with my daughter's to see if I can take part by WALKING rather than running.
When I shared this with my wife yesterday she reminded me of something my grandson Adam had said. "Granddad do you mind if I say something ? You walk like a snail !"
Well, I am going to do it.
I've just had a brilliant idea ! I am going to ask my best friend Jake - here on the right - if he will walk with me.
Why not ?
He can walk and he can also collect sponsors.
The story I am working on right now THE BRIDGE HOUSE starts in 1901 when its central character, my grandmother was eleven years old. I am moving towards the end of the first chapter. I have a detailed plan for the writing which will see the book published in time for the fun run in October.
Every morning I open my publisher's admin page to see how many copies of my stories have been sold. The graph is usually a straight line - the base line with one or two spikes. It's strange but I either sell no e-books at all or I sell a lot. No steady daily sales line.
I have already decided I am going to write THE BRIDGE HOUSE for Rebekah but have also
decided to do what J M Barrie did.
All money I earn from the story which will be published both as an e-book and in traditional form will be given to Ronald McDonald Houses.
If truth be told I do not normally care that much if a story sells anything at all, writing a story is what matters to me. THE BRIDGE HOUSE I will make my very best work ever and then I promise to work very hard to promote it and sell loads of copies. Everything will go to Ronald McDonald.
If I can make one ten thousandth of that J M Barrie raised for Great Ormond Street I will be a happy man.
My heart is bleeding with my own loss but there are today
people in our land whose hearts will be bleeding tenfold. I can not make this
diary entry, my diary is a comment on my life and my country's life, to ignore
the horrible event of last night would be wrong. To make a big feature of
it here would also be wrong. I just need to say two things.
Firstly my heart goes out to everyone who has lost a loved
one or has someone injured. Nothing I or anyone else can say will help but I my
own grieving I have found comfort in knowing people have said what I am trying
to say here.
Secondly, and I know I am wasting my breath in saying this
but when will society, or politicians and everyone wake up and realise what an
alien element of our community is doing ?
I do not want to
write this diary entry and today may not be the right day to
actually publish these words but if I do not then this writing
project will probably come to an end. If it does the hobby I have
pursued since I was seventeen years old, a hobby I have decided to
make central to my life in my remaining years, will also come to an
end. Many of my diary entries are deliberately silly, when I say
silly I mean fun. To my grandchildren I always refer to myself
as Silly Old Granddad, to my sons for the first time yesterday I
called myself Your Silly Old Dad.
This diary is meant, overall, to be my outlook on
my life, last Friday morning my life changed for ever. I can not
imagine what life will now hold in the years I have left. I am
going to pour my heart out now, I am pouring it out to myself. I
have always said that a writer writes for his own enjoyment, winning
readers and making any money from his writing comes most definitely in second place. I am writing this page for myself. If you
chance to read it then you are welcome, please read on but as I
rattle the laptop keys I am writing for myself. This is going
to be a very long diary entry, I have a lot to say.
Perhaps it was twenty-five years ago, it could be
a few more, I was offered a very well paid commission from a
national magazine to write an autobiographical feature about being a
parent of a child suffering chronic renal failure. I turned it down.
I would not write the article because the magazine's house style was
too prescriptive. It told me how many words had to be in each
paragraph, how each paragraph should progress through the story and
what each should contain. I do not work like that so turned
down what today would be a couple of thousand pounds for half a
dozen hours work.
When I write a story I do have a plan, my own
plan not a magazine editor's plan, in my head. I seldom write that
plan down. However, for the writing project I am currently engaged
in I have a formal written plan.
My
story begins in 1901 when the central character, Lily - my
grandmother, has recently had her eleventh birthday. It continues
until shortly after the birth of my daughter, Rebekah. She was the first girl
to be born in our direct family line for one hundred years.
My grandmother had three sons and never the
daughter she longed for. In The Bridge House and its first chapter
there is a character who similarly longs for a daughter and takes
Lily under her wing as an "adopted" daughter.
My grandmother then had four grandsons but never
the granddaughter she longed for.
My wife and I had a son, my brother and his wife
had a son, we then had another son. My dear grandmother thought
another generation was there without a girl.
I was not present for the birth of my third
child, I had to arrange for my two young boys to be looked after
before I could get to the hospital. When I arrived I was too late.
My wife was
sitting in her hospital bed holding the new addition to
our
family.
"Is he alright ?" I asked my wife.
"It's not a he," she said, "it's a she."
"Are you sure ?" I rather stupidly replied.
"Go and phone your Nan." My wife said.
I did. "When she picked up the phone I said to
her, "When are you coming to see your great-granddaughter ?"
Later she told me she put down the phone after we
had finished speaking and, to use her words, had a little cry.
I doubt my grandmother in all her long 94 years life cried tears
either of joy or sadness more than a small handful of times.
Early on Friday morning I received a frantic phone call
from my daughter's husband to say she had stopped breathing. I raced
to their home, a forty minute drive, to find two ambulance crews
working to save her life but she had gone. The past
forty-eight hours have been the hardest in my wife's and my life.
Neither of us have managed to cry properly, we want to and while the
tears form and the lips quiver the sobs remain within us.
My daughter, my beautiful Rebekah, was born with
long-term kidney failure. She spent all of her childhood in and out
of Guys Hospital in London. She had two failed kidney transplants.
It was planned for me to be a live donor and to give her one of my
kidneys. I set up a TV documentary to be made, filming the two
operations to help promote the Organ Donor Card. Through my
hobby of writing I came to know Elizabeth Ward who founded the donor
programme, I did writing for McDonald's the fast food giant, operator of Ronald McDonald Childrens Charity and Ronald McDonald
House. I came to know the then UK senior executives of the company.
Everything was ready for the TV documentary. Less than half a day
before the twin operations the transplant surgeon, Geoff, cancelled
the project saying new tests indicated too big a risk of rejection
and it would be morally wrong to put my health at risk to go ahead.
I pleased with him but he could not change his professional
decision.
The board of governors of the school where I was
head of year had given me three months fully paid leave. I
took one week, a terrible week where I could not face going out of
the house or seeking anyone other than family. That is exactly how I
feel right now. Back then I knew if I did not snap out of
things I would have a nervous breakdown so I went back to work.
My classes had been taken over by a former deputy
head, a disciplinarian but those classes were giving him a hard
time. It was, however, nothing to the hell the three hundred
teenagers were giving to the guy who was standing in for me as head
of year. He did not like the way in which I ran my year group and
was determined to put in place a more formal and traditional regime.
He was failing every day as my students refused to accept him. The
morning of my early return to work I walked past the rows of seated
teenagers to the front of the assembly hall, I heard the murmur go
round He's back !
Many of those former students who
were in that assembly hall all those years ago, and others who were
in different year groups who had me as their head, have sent me such
beautiful messages on hearing of my daughter's death two days ago. I
have just counted those messages, they are not all from who I call
my LEONITES - my former students at Leon School, but there have been
45 messages in the past 12 hours. No, I have just checked - up
to fifty now. THANK YOU THANK YOU.
One kind person wrote:
Dave, you was my favourite teacher, and somehow I'm feeling your
pain more than ever.
Not all messages are from Leonites, some are from people who knew me
way before my time at Leon School. I can not tell you how
special ALL of those messages are to my wife, Maureen, and I at this
time.
So much of Rebekah's childhood was tied in to my work at Leon
School. Please do not tell me I was a good teacher, I was not.
I am not sure I could be considered as a good head of year in the
traditional sense but I hope I was a good person who went beyond a
professional level of care for those in my charge and made things a
bit more personal. I started my teaching career shortly before
my 19th birthday. I was an unqualified teacher in charge of PE and
games in a private boys preparatory school. As I loved music so much
the headmaster put me in charge of that as well. Years later
it was intended for me to become headmaster of that school but with Rebekah's illness I simply could not take on the responsibilities.
The headmaster closed the school, retired and sold it to a developer
where there is now a small housing estate.
Bruce Abbott, who was head at Leon School and my boss, was so
incredibly kind and supportive to me as I was forced to take so much
time off work for hospital visits. He came to me one day and said,
"Stop taking these days off without pay, you should be paid." He and
his wife, Jenny, were so lovely. When Bruce was himself
seriously ill, shortly before the end of his life, I wrote to him to
wish him the best and thanked him for the strong friendship he
had shown to my family.
Two years after the time when I did not become a live
donor I took a group from school on what I called a study trip
to California. I organised four such visits to California,
Nevada. Mexico and the Grand Canyon in Arizona but they were, in
truth, the ultimate school holidays - not a lot of STUDY about
them. On that last one I
had driven overnight, taking our hired mini-bus from Tijuana in
Mexico to Los Angeles. While everyone played on Malinu Beach I lay
in the sand to sleep. There was then a long overnight flight back to
Heathrow. As we emerged into the arrivals hall I was met my a friend
who said; "You are not to worry but Rebekah had a kidney transplant
last night. I had my two sons with me who had made the trip
with my school students, my wife had remained in England and taken
Rebekah on holiday in Somerset. No mobile phones then, she had
a bleep which sounded to say the hospital had a kidney for her.
I went home, I had a bath and arranged for the
boys to be looked after before heading down to London to see my wife
and daughter. I had with me a Disney blanket we had got for Rebekah
from Disneyland in Los Angeles. That blanket is now on her settee in her home.
The first thing Rebekah said to me was, "Look Dad my legs are pink."
The kidney was working.
If only it had been that simple. Rejection
set in and she was heading towards losing her third transplant. Sue,
the consultant, took my wife and I into a room and explained if the
took all of Rebekah's blood and filtered it through a machine the
anti-bodies could be removed and possibly stop the rejection. I
urged for the doctors to do this. Sue then
explained about the danger of Rebekah catching an infection, even a
simple cold. "Then you will make her better, you will treat it,"
I said. "That is what I am trying to say," Sue said. "We will
not be able to treat it." She was saying that Rebekah would
die if she took even the slightest germ into her body. Beck
was far too young to legally make that kind of decision, knowing
what she would wish had she been older we agreed to the procedure.
It worked.
One afternoon I was waiting for the lift on the
ninth floor of Guys Hospital Tower where Rebekah's ward was. When
the lift door opened Sue Rigden stepped out. "Good
news isn't it ?" She said.
"What good news ?" I replied.
"Has nobody told you ! The biopsy results -
NO SIGNS OF REJECTION."
Rebekah then went from strength to strength and
became a new person. We exchanged simple letters with the family of
a young boy who had lost his life and donated the kidney to save
Rebekah's life. How do you thank a family in that situation ?
Throughout her childhood I was the one who went
with her to the Chronic Renal Failure Clinic at Guyz Hospital and
then to the monthly transplant clinic. At
first we used to go by train but I changed to driving. We would
drive through The City Of London, turn left at The Monument and
cross Tower Bridge to Guys Hospital. This was at the height of the
IRA bombing campaign on Mainland Britain. One Sunday a giant bomb
exploded in the City so closing the route we would take. I had
to navigate a new route through this most difficult part of London.
There were security check points to pass through on the way into and out of
the City.
On on occasion there was a tube strike so more
than the usual number of cars were parked. I could find
nowhere to park so stopped on double yellow lines. Returning from
the clinic I found that not only had I received a parking ticket,
which I expected, but my car had been removed to a police pound.
In those days the police controlled parking, not the local council
and private sub contractors. There was no tube running so I
took a taxi way, way across London to pay for the release of my car.
That taxi driver refused to charge me for the ride. The consultant,
Sue Rigden, spoke to the police who refunded all of the money I had
paid for the release of my car.
We used to call Rebekah our LITTLE MISS SUNSHINE.
That she was.
Leaving school she trained as a nursery nurse.
This was inspired by those who had helped to continue her education
in the Guys Hospital School. She loved her work and loved children.
The happiest day of Rebekah's life was the day,
almost five years ago, when she married Gary. What an amazing
person he is. He has done so much for Rebekah, loved her and cared
for her. They were the perfect couple.
My beloved Jake is down to Rebekah. She and Gary adopted a
little dog, Lucy, from a local rescue centre. She then found Jake on the
centre's website. Jake was looking for a home. For two months, yes two
months, Rebekah sent me text messages, photographs, e-mails and was for ever
saying; "Adopt Jake, adopt Jake." She would not listen to me when I said I did
not want a dog.
One Sunday Rebekah came round with more photographs of Jake
on her phone. Maureen gave in and said, "Let's go and see Jake then !"
1st October 2013, Jake moved into his new home and has been
at the centre of our family ever since. He is devoted to Maureen and I, am
always saying he never leaves my side. When people come to visit our home and
see Jake they realise I am speaking literally, he is never more than a few feet
away from me. When we go out in the car he comes with us. Our bedroom is his
bedroom and, more often than not, our bed is his bed.
Rebekah you gave us Jake and every time I look at him I will
think of you.
Rebekah,
I have just been round to Matthew's house. Adam was there and wearing the Real
Madrid shirt you and Gary gave him for his birthday. Ollie or his birthday
went to McDonald's where he put lots of coins into the Ronald McDonald House
collecting box.
Here's your nephew Adam when he came to visit you in Oxford's
Churchill Hospital. Beck let me embarrass you with your picture !
Sorry about that !
Below is your niece Katherine when she came to visit you in
hospital.
Rebekah contracted a year ago a chest
infection, a form of pneumonia similar to that which eventually took
the life of Freddie Mercury, Medical science has moved on so
it was not life threatening and she was treated. She was treated but never
effectively cured. Her kidney function fell significantly and
it became clear her transplanted kidney was nearing the end of its
life. She was prepared for dialysis. Her treatment was partly in
Milton Keynes Hospital and partly at Churchill Hospital in Oxford.
Every day for four weeks I would either travel to visit her in
hospital or take her to a clinic appointment.
My wife an I put ourselves forward as live donors
for Beck. My wife was rejected as her own kidney function was not
one hundred percent.
I was rejected as my blood sugar levels were
supposedly too high. However, one test showed a normal level. I was
made to drink half a litre of Lucozade and the sugar levels tested
again two hours later. This time the blood sugar levels were
below normal ! I joked with senior doctors saying what a weird
body I must have. It was agreed that if I could maintain
levels at normal for three months I could go back into the live
donor programme. I would not donate directly to Rebekah but to
a pool where someone would receive my kidney and Rebekah would have
a transplant from a
different donor. I have told Churchill Hospital I wish to continue
and become an altruistic live donor but I suspect they may not
actually accept me. I will be pushing myself forward and those who
know me will be aware just how much of a pushy person I can
be. Someone once said to me: "You are very good at knocking on
doors, if they do not open you just kick them down and walk in
anyway !"
Rebekah did not take to the dialysis, she
appeared to me to have lost her childhood fight. She had bad days
and not so bad days, she did not have good days. A few weeks ago I
was telling everyone she was fading away and would probably die in
her sleep. But she turned a corner and was starting to get better.
The support she received from both hospital was amazing.
Few people will have the experience of Britain's
National Health Service that I have. The system is incredible and
the people who work within it are so amazing. Some call them ANGELS,
I say they are SAINTS.
I get so angry when I hear people knocking the
NHS, when people criticise and politicians use it as a football for
their own games. Of course the NHS is under-funded, isn't life
under-funded ? You could double, triple quadruple the funding and it
would never be enough. But that is not the point. The point is the
OVERFLOWING love those who work within the NHS give every minute of
every day to those they care for.
When Rebekah died on Friday the consultant in
charge of her renal treatment was told. He picked up the phone and
called me. What a lovely conversation we had. That was not an
NHS senior doctor doing his job, that was a lovely man making a
personal telephone call. That was special.
Also special was the nurse who stayed on duty for
two and a half hours to sit with Rebekah while she waited for
ambulance transport to take her from Milton Keynes Hospital to the
Churchill in Oxford. I took her some flowers and wrote to the
Chief Executive of the hospital praising the care my daughter was
receiving. I sent copies to The Secretary of State for Health and
our own local MP, Ian Stewart. Ian wrote me a beautiful hand written
reply which you can see on the right. I took this to the hospital
and gave it to the staff who had cared for my daughter.
Aren't people wonderful ? I have to keep
going back and changing upwards the number of people who have sent
me messages.
Rebekah was our Little Miss Sunshine, she was
such a large part of my life and my wife's life, we can not imagine
life without her. Even after she left home and was married I
would speak to her on the telephone almost every day. She would send
me text messages, Dad I am sorry to be a pain but could you
do.................
Rebekah had asked us to organise a garden party
and BBQ for her, her brothers, their wives and children. We have two
hundred pounds of plants outside waiting to be put into the pots and
the ground ready for that party. It is hard but the planting is still
going to have to happen even though the party will not. Rebekah's
brother,
Matthew, is a stock and systems manager at Morrissons Supermarkets.
Yesterday he had staff put aside twenty-four miniature sunflower
plants for me. I have them at the front of the house right now
in memory of Rebekah, I will be putting them in pots and hanging
baskets. A sunflower is now a Little Miss Sunshine flower.
My wife and I have asked Rebekah's brother Peter,
who is a lawyer, to legally change our names. I will be David
John Bekah Ashford and she will be Maureen Rebekah Lousise Ashford.
Rebekah will never leave us.
I know that Rebekah did not think a lot of my
story writing. When I signed up as an Amazon writer, nothing special
about that - anyone can do it, I found in my loft the original
manuscript of my book THE WILD ADVENTURES OF DI CENTRAL EATING.
I opened the manuscript and there on the first page were the
words REBEKAH THIS STORY IS FOR YOU. I wrote that story
decades ago, it did have a provisional publishing offer but I never
got my act together enough for it to happen.
The
story is now published on Amazon as an e-book. I actually purchased
a copy for myself to give to Rebekah, I don't this she was impressed
!
Di Central Eating is not particularly a child's book, it is more an
adult's view on a child's life. I have just received my Amazon
royalty statement for the last month, it's not easy to understand
but I think I have sold a copy of the book to someone in Japan.
It is now twenty-four hours since Rebekah passed away, it was not
easy to start writing this page but as I have continued the words
have just flowed. Writing all I have has helped me but knowing
people will now read it - I am not sure about that.
If I did not write this page in my diary, the hobby I have had for
the past fifty years ,could come to an end. THE DIARY OF A SILLY OLD
MAN is not currently published beyond my own website but I do
include it on the Booksie website and on Blogger. I will
publish it when there are more entries, perhaps in a year's time.
What should I do about THE BRIDGE HOUSE ? So much of the story planning involves Rebekah.
The cover is Rebekah's ! It is actually a print which my
grandmother, Lily, always had on her
wall at home. When she
died in 1984 I asked if I could have it in memory of her. It was
then in a very dark frame. I had it reframed. Behind the
picture was the honourable discharge certificate from World War One
of her husband who suffered from tuberculosis. I have no idea
of the value of the picture, it could be worthless or it could be
priceless. I do not care. It belonged to Lily's mother-in-law,
then to Lily and then to me so I am its fourth generation. Rebekah
asked if on my passing she could have it. It is in my will with the
proviso that it must never be sold and must always be passed down
through the family. What am I going to do now ?
The Bridge House plan ends when Rebekah is born and Lily had her
great-granddaughter to love. Everything in the story plan is
working towards that climax. Right now I am about five
thousand words short of completing chapter one. I had great
hopes for this story. Usually my stories are novelettes but
this is going to be a full-length work. It had been my intention to
offer it via Amazon as a printed book as well as an e-book. It
may sell a million copies or it could sell nothing, I could make a
fortune or I could make nothing ! It could become a TV
blockbuster or it could be forgotten. That was not a concern, I
was having incredible fun writing the story.
While
the story is written round the life of my paternal grandmother Lily
Bedson, later Lily Ashford, I have wrapped fact in my author's
imagination to tell some fictional tales of the times in which Lily
lived. Lily is the taller teenage girl in the picture on the left.
While chapter one is going along well it is too simple. It
takes the reader from A to B in a straight line. It needs to
weave about and have some sub plots operating. It was my plan
to finish the chapter then go back and make a complete rewrite.
One of the fictional characters in the story is Henry, here on the
right. I found his image on sale as a photograph in an antiques
market while I was on holiday the week before last.
The picture is exactly how I was imagining his character in the
story so I just had to own the photograph no matter how much the
stallholder was asking. When he told me the picture was just one
pound I snatched his hand off !
However, with the loss of Rebekah I wondered if I would be able to
write the story or not. Could I continue it or would the writing be
too painful. Just as writing this diary page was a hard undertaking
so would be continuing with The Bridge House. I asked my wife
if I should stop writing, not just The Bridge House but writing all
together. She said I should finish The Bridge House and
dedicate it to Rebekah. That is what I am going to do. It will be an
Amazon listed book and e-book by the end of the year.
Rebekah I have absolutely no idea how I am going to be able to live
the rest of my life without you occupying the very big part within
it you have been for thirty-four years. Writing this diary page has
helped me, I hope if anyone reads it they do not think I am being
silly even if the diary is from a SILLY OLD MAN. I will write
The Bridge House for you, I promise to make it my best work ever.
Rebekah I loved you so much, I still love you and will love you for
ever. You were my Little Miss Sunshine, you were Little Miss
Sunshine to us all. You know how much I love music, I know
you had a music DVD you were planning to give me today as a gift. I
have not listened to any music at all for two days but have been,
just these past moments, to YouTube and found this.
My darling daughter Rebekah I love you so much, you will always be
my sunshine.
When you were a kid did you have the superstition that providing you did not step on the cracks in the pavement, where the stones met, nothing bad would happen to you that day ?
First thing every day I take my little dog for his morning walk. We have the same route of about a mile wandering round the streets where we live. He knows the way and so I simply follow on..
This is the time of the year when the slugs and nails are at the height of their breeding season. A year ago I developed a silly suspicion - if I could tread on, squash and kill five snails on the pavement each morning the vote in the referendum would be to leave the European Union. A lot of snails met their end to help secure a leave victory.
Yesterday on our walk there were more of these vile creatures crawling along the pavement than Jake, that's my little dog, and I had ever seen before on our morning walk. I probably
annihilated at least twenty. As the sole of my shoe executed another mollusc so a new suspicion formed within my brain.
If on our morning walk between then and Thursday 8th June I could obliterate sufficient slimy, crawling snails our country would be safe from a loony left victory in the general election.
Yesterday the Liberal Democratic Party published its manifesto at the centre of which is a denial of democracy and the vote to leave the European Union. Last night I watched the patty's idiotic leader spouting his usual rubbish on the news. The Liberal Democrats probably have a one in ten million chance of forming a government so it can publish anything it likes without needing to worry about how it could possibly be put into operation.
Paddy Power on-line betting gives the Lib Dems a slightly better set of odds, just five thousand to one. I wonder how many people have been foolish enough to put money on that.
The Labour Party's election manifesto has been out for the readying by the gullible for a few days now. It promises anything and everything people would like to see in a Utopian society. As much as its promises would be very nice implementing them would bankrupt the country and destroy our society.
Paddy Power is offering odds of twenty to one on there being a Labour Government. For the Tories the odds are sixteen to one on.
An option it does not offer is a Liberal Democrat - Labour coalition. How terrible would that ?
I worry that sufficient naive people may be taken in by the fairy tale promises of Jeremy Corbyn to bring about a result where no party has an overall majority. Paddy Power is offering odds of ten to one on that happening. If that brought about a situation where Jeremy Corbyn and Tim Farron were in charge of my destiny then I do not think I would want to live in Britain any longer.
I love my country although I despise what some people have done to it during the course of my lifetime. If Corbyn and Farron ever had their way there would quickly be no country left worth living in.
Twenty-two days left to the general election.
Twenty-two days to a future safe from the fools of Farron and Corbyn.
Twenty-two days to a Farron and Corbyn destruction of Britain.
I had better get out there and make sure I tread on a lot more snails.
Once
the celebration of her life has
formally taken place on Tuesday 6th June I will be promoting this
fun run like crazy. The friends have set themselves a target
to raise one thousand
pounds, as of this morning they have raised two hundred and five
pounds. We will smash that target several times over.
HAVE A LOOK.
The Bridge House starts in 1901
when the central character is eleven years old and Queen Victoria
has just died. The story will end shortly after Rebekah was
born in 1983. 
